If the critic is yelling and the vulnerable child is screaming, what part of the psyche makes the good, practical decisions? The healthy adult (and to some extent, the healthy child) is the part that makes sense of all the[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Anger is never fun, but it’s often mischaracterised as bad. But much like pain when we stub our toes, it’s a natural response to things that seem bad or unfair to us. But it can emerge as an unhealthy default[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I used to think that the inner child was a weird concept, and that we would only rely on it to tell us what childish fun still exists in us. That it would be for quick bursts of irrational fun,[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I’m borrowing from schema therapy, which is the main therapy model that my therapist and I are using. But it’s been very effective in pulling out some major parts of my brain, and given many insights into the various functions[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I’m not sure whether to continue posting wordart. It’s admittedly selfish expression rather than explaining what depression and living with depression looks like. This might be one of the few that directly says something about depression. Very often, we hide[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
It’s been an interesting experiment trying to choose Chinese/Mandarin characters that are simple enough to convey what I want to talk about, and then to choose the words to fill the strokes needed to write the character. But perhaps for[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
It has been relatively painful to breathe lately. Covid definitely didn’t help matters but at least that’s over. But in the process, I wanted to try something new to express the pain and hurt. I’m not sure where this will[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
When depression and low self esteem is in the picture, suddenly telling someone that they’re actually performing below standards can demolish whatever little esteem has been built up. Especially if the assessor is someone they love or respect – and[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
The damage that we do to the younger folk we care for can be very damaging indeed. Even if it’s out of the fear that the world will hurt them more than we can. It’s true that the world can[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
This comic was ready a month or more ago, but I couldn’t bring myself to publish it. I struggle with impact. I struggle with the negative voice, the critic in my head, telling me that I’m not enough, this is[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…