Someone once told me that during periods like this, we need to listen to the ones who love us. It’s so tough though, because the inner voice is always louder, and more believable. I don’t know why I’m loved. I[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I once called the stubbornness in depression, the arrogance of depression. I still do. What people misunderstand is that I’m not saying depressed people are arrogant. Far from it. But depression only allows certain truths to hold true – negative[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
It’s never really enough. Whatever I do, as the depression drags on, whatever I’ve done never seems enough to myself, or to certain important people in my life. My wife and our best friend and a few relatives and friends[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Back to the therapy room! Sometimes we wonder why we need to fill things in, or do check ins and mood surveys. The reason is because we need facts and numbers even in the midst of subjective moods and feelings.[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Sometimes, it isn’t worth it – or helpful – to keep up the argument. So sometimes I do get the hush treatment. It’s helpful when I can’t absorb anything.
This still happens. CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) helps remove some of the sting of the mental loops but they’re difficult to get out of. In conversation it’s easy to fall into the loops and not be able to see past[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
This is really the heart of the problem. Knowing versus feeling. And feeling leads to believing. And the problem is the heart. I love language play.
Yup. I suck. Nothing you say will convince me otherwise. No, really. Even if you force me to listen, I won’t be able to accept it in my heart. My wife and our best friend gets frustrated with this. It’s[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Understanding this paradox is particularly important when it comes to seeking help, whether medical or otherwise, or when it comes to being rejected. Someone who’s depressed may not be good at expressing how or when they need help. Don’t turn[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
This is one of the saddest but truest conversations I’ve had to have in the past. But all in all it’s still nice to be loved and valued, even if we think we don’t deserve it.