I don’t have much to add to this one. My healthy adult exists. He’s just… too used to being bullied. He operates quietly outside of view, if he does operate. Depressed Dave was born because he knew Dave had to[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
If the critic is yelling and the vulnerable child is screaming, what part of the psyche makes the good, practical decisions? The healthy adult (and to some extent, the healthy child) is the part that makes sense of all the[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Before learning about these modes or maladaptive coping schemes in schema therapy, all I knew was that anger was bad. I could see myself approach the “bad” precipice, and very often, I would end up tipping over into it. While[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Anger is never fun, but it’s often mischaracterised as bad. But much like pain when we stub our toes, it’s a natural response to things that seem bad or unfair to us. But it can emerge as an unhealthy default[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I’ve struggled to complete this series, and equally have been struggling whether there’s any point to posting it. My only hope is that it can help someone else struggling with their inner critic or even the concept of it, through[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
When depression and low self esteem is in the picture, suddenly telling someone that they’re actually performing below standards can demolish whatever little esteem has been built up. Especially if the assessor is someone they love or respect – and[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
The idea is to use our senses just to force the mind to pay attention to the surroundings and the body. Take the mind back to the present. Breathe to overcome the short, panicked breaths that come with an episode.[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Have you ever felt overwhelmed by stuff? Need to stop, take a breath? What if that stuff just keeps coming? What if you carry all that stuff, and it just keeps beating down, step by morbid step, until you’re bent[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
When tasks overwhelm, sometimes it’s because the brain cannot cope with all the inputs and stays stuck on the fact that there’re so many inputs, so many consequences and so many possible outcomes. So breaking down the tasks into the[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
It’s not that I can’t take compliments or even due credit for my work. It’s that I prefer to deflect it with humour, point out why I don’t deserve it, refuse to accept that I had anything to do with[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…