It’s not that I can’t take compliments or even due credit for my work. It’s that I prefer to deflect it with humour, point out why I don’t deserve it, refuse to accept that I had anything to do with[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Posts Tagged Inner critic
This question always gets me. When is enough, enough? For some people, as long as I’m unwell, I’ll not be enough. If I’m well but I hold values they don’t agree with, I’ll not be enough. Even if I start[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
One thing most people don’t know about me and my comic is that very often, I feel like a fraud drawing this, writing of my experiences. What if I’m lying to myself? What if all this isn’t true, and what[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
This is really hard. REALLY HARD. I’m struggling with it right now and my critic is screaming at me. But I managed to deploy this comic I’ve drawn for a while now. It’s one small step. And it’s enough, critic.[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Depression changes the usual rules on managing criticism and the various voices in our heads. There’s no easy solution – look at the speed at which I’m posting! But one trick is to recognise when people do care, and when[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
If we really want to be fair to others, we don’t just listen to all the bad things about them, or even just the good things. Being human, no one is perfect. So to be fair, we should listen to[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
To understand ourselves better, and our struggles especially in depression, it’s always good to be realistic about ourselves and our humanity. Negative emotions are very evident in depression, but they’re actually normal, useful and helpful. But as with everything, too[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Our inner critic is important to us as a defense against the world, and to push us to do better. But in depression, that can become way over low, and is a bit of a vicious circle. We start listening[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
This doesn’t just happen in depression but it’s a lot more difficult when depression is involved. Understanding why the negative voices are there and why they’re so difficult to overcome is helpful to understand why it’s not so easy sometimes,[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
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When this sort of thing happens to someone without depression, the common reply is to just “get over it” and “move on” and “ignore the negative voices”. It’s really not that easy for some. And well, in depression? We hear[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…