I don’t have much to add to this one. My healthy adult exists. He’s just… too used to being bullied. He operates quietly outside of view, if he does operate. Depressed Dave was born because he knew Dave had to[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
If the critic is yelling and the vulnerable child is screaming, what part of the psyche makes the good, practical decisions? The healthy adult (and to some extent, the healthy child) is the part that makes sense of all the[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Before learning about these modes or maladaptive coping schemes in schema therapy, all I knew was that anger was bad. I could see myself approach the “bad” precipice, and very often, I would end up tipping over into it. While[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Anger is never fun, but it’s often mischaracterised as bad. But much like pain when we stub our toes, it’s a natural response to things that seem bad or unfair to us. But it can emerge as an unhealthy default[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I used to think that the inner child was a weird concept, and that we would only rely on it to tell us what childish fun still exists in us. That it would be for quick bursts of irrational fun,[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…