Repeating after myself: I am not alone. Even when my critic corners me in the darkness of the night, in the hours where only faeries dip their penbrushes in their inkpots to write the tales of dusklight and in-betweens, I[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
It’s not the loneliness that can get to me sometimes. It’s the illusion of loneliness especially when there’s so much going on behind my eyes that no one can see. It’s not fair to expect everyone – or anyone! –[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Ongoing struggle. I don’t have more words to add for this one. OK I do have words. I’M STRUGGLING SO HARD AHHHHHHH. Thanks for coming to my Ted (Totally Energy Draining) talk.
The critic starts out healthily most of the time. Just an example of how it can end up badly. Also a pretty regular struggle I have. And also why I always say I’m sorry.
It’s not like my inner critic is special. Like many people, the inner critic is a natural part of our psyche. It helps us to improve, to set standards, to avoid complacency. Mine is just… Over developed. Too loud. It[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I don’t have much to add to this one. My healthy adult exists. He’s just… too used to being bullied. He operates quietly outside of view, if he does operate. Depressed Dave was born because he knew Dave had to[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
If the critic is yelling and the vulnerable child is screaming, what part of the psyche makes the good, practical decisions? The healthy adult (and to some extent, the healthy child) is the part that makes sense of all the[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Before learning about these modes or maladaptive coping schemes in schema therapy, all I knew was that anger was bad. I could see myself approach the “bad” precipice, and very often, I would end up tipping over into it. While[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Anger is never fun, but it’s often mischaracterised as bad. But much like pain when we stub our toes, it’s a natural response to things that seem bad or unfair to us. But it can emerge as an unhealthy default[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I used to think that the inner child was a weird concept, and that we would only rely on it to tell us what childish fun still exists in us. That it would be for quick bursts of irrational fun,[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…