It’s not like my inner critic is special. Like many people, the inner critic is a natural part of our psyche. It helps us to improve, to set standards, to avoid complacency. Mine is just… Over developed. Too loud. It[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I’m borrowing from schema therapy, which is the main therapy model that my therapist and I are using. But it’s been very effective in pulling out some major parts of my brain, and given many insights into the various functions[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
When depression and low self esteem is in the picture, suddenly telling someone that they’re actually performing below standards can demolish whatever little esteem has been built up. Especially if the assessor is someone they love or respect – and[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
When tasks overwhelm, sometimes it’s because the brain cannot cope with all the inputs and stays stuck on the fact that there’re so many inputs, so many consequences and so many possible outcomes. So breaking down the tasks into the[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I drew this with tears in my eyes. It’ll be 5 years this year and I’m still wondering if I’m faking it… *Wipes tears* *Takes deeper breaths* Let’s carry on fighting.
I find on many occasions that I’m doing what seems to be the base habits or behaviours of a young child with adult responsibilities. There’s nothing to be valued about cooking a meal, hanging up or folding some clothes, or[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I’ll be honest. I drew this together with my earlier comic. I’d like to say that things got busy. But in all honesty… I struggled to post this. I know this is the more ideal way to look at things.[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
If you don’t have a mental health condition like depression, you might think, this is senseless. If you do struggle with a mental health condition… This is often the reality.
Depression changes the usual rules on managing criticism and the various voices in our heads. There’s no easy solution – look at the speed at which I’m posting! But one trick is to recognise when people do care, and when[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I don’t mean an actual stage, of course. When anyone is watching – and many are, in our lives – it does feel like we’re performing on a stage for anything even remotely public. And even in private, we have[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…