Therapy unlike most other relationships, is meant to be open and close. We may develop real friendships with our therapist (or vice versa). Ideally though, to maintain a strong therapeutic relationship, the therapist should be able to remain objective, while providing safety for the client to speak.

There also is confusion over money being an issue – the phrase “Therapists are paid to care” is bandied about very often. In actual fact, a good therapist cares – but needs to be paid to maintain that boundary, and also because they need to eat. In fact, the financial arrangement forms its own boundary of protection.

It’s tiring too to care while being objective for so many people in one hour blocks! So therapists need their own spaces to decompress, and should definitely be recompensed well for their time and emotional space.