Today’s commentary only focuses on the last frame.

I lost a friend who doesn’t even remember that we had this conversation now, but steadfastly refuses to communicate with me except at arms’ length. I violated her boundaries, and on hindsight, she had also violated mine, but we both didn’t know. I activated her trauma and she activated mine. I can’t blame her for her response. I blame myself for mine, but in the end, we didn’t communicate our boundaries and struggles properly until things got too much for both sharer and listener.

In this case, she was the listener.

Both sharers and listeners need safety. A safe space cannot be simply safe for only one party, though it’s easier for a party with power or leverage to create safety for themselves.