*Reminder – this is about boundaries in the context of creating safe spaces!*

Some people don’t have the actual ability to maintain or enforce boundaries. By that I mean actual inability, not that they don’t want to, or that they don’t try. Financial dependency. Familial and societal relations and expectations. Even personal and religious beliefs can play a part to prevent the establishment of boundaries sometimes.

In those cases, it is possibly wiser not to try to find a safe space within those contexts, unless you can find a specific person who would be happy to talk about and maintain boundaries with you.

As an added note, anyone who insists they’re close enough to not need boundaries either doesn’t understand boundaries, or probably isn’t going to understand why a safe space can suddenly become unsafe just with a few words.