Why can’t friends make good therapists?

I can’t think of a good punchline for that one.

Friends might provide good counsel and insight, especially stuff that’s aligned specifically to us. But that also means they can hurt us unwittingly, without sufficient objectivity or if they speak into an area that involves trauma or medical conditions.

And then there’re boundaries, shame, complications…

It doesn’t mean we can’t speak to our friends. We should and I daresay we must. The problem is when we’re talking about issues that involve dark shame, pain and trauma, or issues that invite judgement. Issues that we end up not talking about because we don’t want to be “that person”.

Don’t make the mistake of trying to make a friend becomeĀ our therapist. That’s not their role, nor are they trained for it. We may lose a good friend instead.