So if you’re talking to someone with depression, even if advice is sought, consider that they’re struggling and have limited space to process what you’re saying or advising.

That’s… just really it. There’s no two ways around this. Someone who’s tired, exhausted, broken, full of doubt and suspicion and anger about themselves or the future, just has not much space left to learn new things. It’s not that they absolutely can’t. It’s that they will struggle to do so, and may have to do so at a baby’s pace. Or sometimes, find out that at the present time, they just can’t. Or even that what you suggested won’t work in their context, family or situation – and yeah, you kind of don’t get a say in the assessment of that.

Because sadly, you’re not them.

Please understand.